Sometimes when things do not go the way we want them, we get very disappointed. It could be a job promotion. It could be an entry into a college we really wanted. It could be capital for a project you want to start.
It is easy to blame your circumstances, people, or even your luck. However, I have come to realize that it probably points to our readiness. Our preparedness. Is it possible that you only saw some surface things and assumed that you are ready for what you are desiring? Is it possible that there are many hidden factors that you have not considered?
For instance, you applied for a job with a new role and you did not get it. You thought you are a good fit. Is it possible that your understanding of what that role demands and what your skills are is not matching? Is it possible that you have not developed or matured yet to that level?
It is possible that the fact you did not get that job actually points to your lack of preparedness. This is very different from lack of talent. Preparedness is about alignment. Alignment comes with deep insights into the demands of something that you desire. Do you have that insight? If you did, do you think you would have prepared the way you did? Job interviews or other decision points are not the starting points in the evaluation - they are the culmination of preparedness up until that point.
Job opportunity is just an example. Let's say you want to buy a property and you think you have enough capital to buy it, so you are bidding on it against multiple buyers. But do you have deeper understanding of the ongoing maintenance costs. Do you have the cash flow to manage that? Do you have resources to maintain it?
This borders probably on mathematical thinking. Perhaps, that's why mathematics has been given such significance in choosing candidates. Of course, the mathematics we are taught in schools is way different and does not nurture mathematical thinking. But pure mathematical thinking allows us to evaluate situations from an objective point of view. It allows us to remove our subjective biases. It allows us to be outside the situation and be passive observer. Spiritual, in a way :-)
So, are you really ready for what you desire? If not, work towards it and the opportunity will present itself again in future multiple times, as long as you are working towards it.
